I will never date or marry a Haitian man because Haitians do witchcraft. The Haitian witch did witchcraft to hook people up with people and has failed to do witchcraft to hook me up with Haitians.
I believe that when we look for love, we rarely find it in its purest form. God is love and when we allow him to fill us with his unconditional love, we love ourselves completely and allow love to find us.
I highly recommend two books for women who are single and wish to eventually marry. The first book will help you determine whether you are prepared to marry. It is Settling for Less than God's Best: A Relationship Check for Single Women by Elsa Kok. The second book is Dating with Pure Passion by Rob Eager.
We need to love and be loved. 1 Corinthians 13:2 says that if we have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge and if we have faith that can move mountains, but have not loved, we are nothing. Verse 13 adds that love is the greater than faith and hope.
While I am trusting and waiting for God to match me with my husband, I have discovered some of the things that make a godly marriage.
First, I believe that God should always be at the core of a godly marriage.
Once a woman becomes Christian, there should be only one way to her heart: through Jesus. Some Haitians pretend to be Christian and do witchcraft on people and go to church. The Haitian witch who is doing witchcraft on me goes to church.
Some Christian women decide to date unbelievers because they believe they can convince them to become Christians. While 1 Peter 3:1 says that Christian women can achieve this goal by their behavior, this can lead to problems in relationships. The woman will find herself fighting with evil spirits that hate and undermine marriage such as lust, adultery, and pornography.
In addition, Christian men are best because it's unlikely that an unbeliever will pray with and for you in a crisis. Unbelievers often resort to other things like sex and chocolate as temporary solutions.
A husband's love for his wife should be patterned after Christ's love the church: unconditionally, redemptively, and sacrificially. He must know and obey the Bible. More importantly, he must walk in discernment. There are a lot of false teachings and evil spirits in the world right now and if he cannot discern these things, he cannot properly be the head of the household. A husband must protect his home from the world, the devil and wicked people.
A husband should be mature. By maturity, I mean that a man should not tell another man that he's playing with a woman who says that she does not like him.
I highly recommend two books for women who are single and wish to eventually marry. The first book will help you determine whether you are prepared to marry. It is Settling for Less than God's Best: A Relationship Check for Single Women by Elsa Kok. The second book is Dating with Pure Passion by Rob Eager.
We need to love and be loved. 1 Corinthians 13:2 says that if we have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge and if we have faith that can move mountains, but have not loved, we are nothing. Verse 13 adds that love is the greater than faith and hope.
While I am trusting and waiting for God to match me with my husband, I have discovered some of the things that make a godly marriage.
First, I believe that God should always be at the core of a godly marriage.
Once a woman becomes Christian, there should be only one way to her heart: through Jesus. Some Haitians pretend to be Christian and do witchcraft on people and go to church. The Haitian witch who is doing witchcraft on me goes to church.
Some Christian women decide to date unbelievers because they believe they can convince them to become Christians. While 1 Peter 3:1 says that Christian women can achieve this goal by their behavior, this can lead to problems in relationships. The woman will find herself fighting with evil spirits that hate and undermine marriage such as lust, adultery, and pornography.
In addition, Christian men are best because it's unlikely that an unbeliever will pray with and for you in a crisis. Unbelievers often resort to other things like sex and chocolate as temporary solutions.
A husband's love for his wife should be patterned after Christ's love the church: unconditionally, redemptively, and sacrificially. He must know and obey the Bible. More importantly, he must walk in discernment. There are a lot of false teachings and evil spirits in the world right now and if he cannot discern these things, he cannot properly be the head of the household. A husband must protect his home from the world, the devil and wicked people.
A husband should be mature. By maturity, I mean that a man should not tell another man that he's playing with a woman who says that she does not like him.
A man should have a bed and should not sleep on the floor. It's sickening to know that there's a Haitian man who does not have a bed and is sleeping on the floor who is desperate for sex and for me, a woman who he knows does not like him.
A man must pay his debt. The Haitian man who does not have a bed doesn't pay his debt and was sued three times because he does not want to pay his debt.
A man must not be so concerned with short-term things that he ignores warnings or compromises the future because the decisions that we make today affect others and our future. Poor decisions are the cause of many generational curses. Many children, including myself, have been hindered because of something that their ancestors did. I believe that sincerity, not persistence is the evidence of a real pursuit. Just because someone expresses interest in you does not mean that they are genuine. Some men pursue women for money, sex, status, fame or to impress their friends. That is why it is best for women to be whole in their singleness and to let God be their matchmaker. This will eliminate any hint of desperation.
One of the best ways to help God be your matchmaker is to cling to God as you pray for your godly husband. Nancy Leigh DeMoss has a wonderful resource on her website about praying for your husband. She offers 31 days of prayers for your husband. You can read or download it here:
https://www.reviveourhearts.com/topics/downloads/index.php?id=9473
I also recommend Sharon Jaynes' book, Becoming the Woman of His Dreams. In her book, she lists seven qualities men desire from women: prays for him, respects him, adores him, initiates intimate friendship with him, safeguards her marriage, encourages him and sexually fulfills him. Women also look for these qualities in men.
Read Ephesians 5:22-33. It's a blueprint for a healthy marriage. More importantly, you must know that "He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord" (Proverbs 18:22)A husband should make sure that he treats his wife with respect. 1 Peter 3:7 says that when a man does not treat his wife with respect, his prayers are hindered.
Some people believe that there is something wrong with being single, but when we are single, we can focus on our relationship with God. There is a website that helps people combat the pressures of sex while they are single: http://www.porn-free.org/single.htm.
Other Helpful Resources:
Lies Young Women Believe: And the Truth that Sets Them Free
Loving People: How to Love and Be Loved
100 Things to Know When Dating-Rose Publishing
Love Talk Starters: 275 Questions to Get Your Conversations Going
Should I Get Married?
10 Great Dates Before You Say
NKJV FamilyLife Marriage Bible: Equipping Couples for Life
Devotions For Dating Couples: Building A Foundation For Spiritual Intimacy
The Love Dare Day by Day: A Year of Devotions for Couples
Couples Who Pray: The Most Intimate Act Between a Man and a Woman
Before You Say
His Needs Her Needs
Love, Dating, and Marriage
Love, Sex, and Lasting Relationships
Nine Critical Mistakes Most Couples Make: Identify the Pitfalls and Discover God's Help
Now You're Speaking My Language: Honest Communication and Deeper Intimacy for a Stronger Marriage
Everybody Wins: The Chapman Guide to Solving Conflicts without Arguing (Chapman Guides)
The Five Languages of Apology: How to Experience Healing in All Your Relationships
And the Bride Wore White: Seven Secrets to Sexual Purity
Every Man's Battle: Winning the War on Sexual Temptation One Victory at a Time (The Every Man Series)
The Language of Sex: Experiencing the Beauty of Sexual Intimacy
The Fig Leaf Conspiracy: Sexuality As It Was Meant to Be
What Did You Expect?: Redeeming the Realities of Marriage by Paul Tripp
5 Essentials for Lifelong Intimacy by Dr. James Dobson
Ten Lessons to Transform Your Marriage: America's Love Lab Experts Share Their Strategies for Strengthening Your Relationship by John M. Gottman
Why Can't You Read My Mind? Overcoming the 9 Toxic Thought Patterns that Get in the Way of a Loving Relationship by Jeffrey Bernstein
Emotional Fitness for Couples: 10 Minutes a Day to a Better Relationship by Barton Goldsmith
The Secrets Men Keep: How Men Make Life and Love Tougher Than It Has to Be by Stephen Arterburn
Start Your Family: Inspiration for Having Babies by Steve & Candice Watters
One of the best ways to help God be your matchmaker is to cling to God as you pray for your godly husband. Nancy Leigh DeMoss has a wonderful resource on her website about praying for your husband. She offers 31 days of prayers for your husband. You can read or download it here:
https://www.reviveourhearts.com/topics/downloads/index.php?id=9473
I also recommend Sharon Jaynes' book, Becoming the Woman of His Dreams. In her book, she lists seven qualities men desire from women: prays for him, respects him, adores him, initiates intimate friendship with him, safeguards her marriage, encourages him and sexually fulfills him. Women also look for these qualities in men.
Read Ephesians 5:22-33. It's a blueprint for a healthy marriage. More importantly, you must know that "He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord" (Proverbs 18:22)A husband should make sure that he treats his wife with respect. 1 Peter 3:7 says that when a man does not treat his wife with respect, his prayers are hindered.
Some people believe that there is something wrong with being single, but when we are single, we can focus on our relationship with God. There is a website that helps people combat the pressures of sex while they are single: http://www.porn-free.org/single.htm.
Other Helpful Resources:
Lies Young Women Believe: And the Truth that Sets Them Free
Loving People: How to Love and Be Loved
100 Things to Know When Dating-Rose Publishing
Love Talk Starters: 275 Questions to Get Your Conversations Going
Should I Get Married?
10 Great Dates Before You Say
NKJV FamilyLife Marriage Bible: Equipping Couples for Life
Devotions For Dating Couples: Building A Foundation For Spiritual Intimacy
The Love Dare Day by Day: A Year of Devotions for Couples
Couples Who Pray: The Most Intimate Act Between a Man and a Woman
Before You Say
His Needs Her Needs
Love, Dating, and Marriage
Love, Sex, and Lasting Relationships
Nine Critical Mistakes Most Couples Make: Identify the Pitfalls and Discover God's Help
Now You're Speaking My Language: Honest Communication and Deeper Intimacy for a Stronger Marriage
Everybody Wins: The Chapman Guide to Solving Conflicts without Arguing (Chapman Guides)
The Five Languages of Apology: How to Experience Healing in All Your Relationships
And the Bride Wore White: Seven Secrets to Sexual Purity
Every Man's Battle: Winning the War on Sexual Temptation One Victory at a Time (The Every Man Series)
The Language of Sex: Experiencing the Beauty of Sexual Intimacy
The Fig Leaf Conspiracy: Sexuality As It Was Meant to Be
What Did You Expect?: Redeeming the Realities of Marriage by Paul Tripp
5 Essentials for Lifelong Intimacy by Dr. James Dobson
Ten Lessons to Transform Your Marriage: America's Love Lab Experts Share Their Strategies for Strengthening Your Relationship by John M. Gottman
Why Can't You Read My Mind? Overcoming the 9 Toxic Thought Patterns that Get in the Way of a Loving Relationship by Jeffrey Bernstein
Emotional Fitness for Couples: 10 Minutes a Day to a Better Relationship by Barton Goldsmith
The Secrets Men Keep: How Men Make Life and Love Tougher Than It Has to Be by Stephen Arterburn
Start Your Family: Inspiration for Having Babies by Steve & Candice Watters
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